Before you read, I would like to tell you, my dear readers, that although it's a bit lengthy, it closely describes what kind of guy women want to fall in love with.

This is an article by Laura Argintar who is an experienced writer, comedienne and low-key science nerd. Listed among her achievements are performing stand-up throughout New York City, graduating from the University of Michigan with a Bachelor of Science and being the first woman in history to twerk at a 2 Chainz concert. LARG – as her friends call her – enjoys covering women’s topics, watching celebrities self-destruct and rising to any occasion.

The Beauty Of Falling In Love
 With Someone Who Makes

                      YOU 

              A Better Person

Before we begin, I’d like you to step into my lair a little bit. I promise I won’t get weird. Turn up a little “Samson” by Regina Spektor or “Skinny Love” by Birdy or whatever soft piano/acoustic/vocal mashup you got in your arsenal of slow songs for days like this when the sky is freeing snowballs and the world feels like one big fleece blanket.

It’s days like this when I’m trapped inside, indulging in my own fun (painting my nails while my hair soaks in a hair masque), that my mind wanders to what I’d be doing if I weren’t stuck home. I’m going to be honest, sometimes, when it’s nearing darkness and the evening hours seem to stretch on endlessly, I wish I had another person there to share in my thoughts of grandeur.

That’s how I came to the conclusion that above anything else — looks, charm, humor, romance — I want a man who will enliven me. Someone who’s going to push my boundaries, introduce me to places I’ve never heard of and embolden me to do the unimaginable because he genuinely believes I can. If he inspires me like that, then the rest will come naturally.

To be frank, it’s hard to come up with new sh*t on your own all the time. You need a partner-in-crime who won’t settle for the mundane, who lives for the thrill, especially when you’re by his side. He’s the guy who won’t think twice about staying out late on a night of adventure even when there’s work in the morning. He’s the one who says “let’s do it” instead of “let’s see.”

Think about it: There’s a reason artists fall in love with their muses. They build you up and make you strive to be your best self.

Take Shakespeare (or even “Shakespeare In Love,” another favorite), for example. Practically his entire collection of love sonnets is inspired by someone else. His greatest work was rooted in his adoration and admiration for a mysterious lover. Falling in love with someone who excites you is ancient.

Look no further than the cult favorite “Vicky Cristina Barcelona,” even. Although a tempestuous relationship, there’s no denying that Maria Elena and Juan Antonio have that passionate spark. In the drama of it all, they always come back to each other.

Maybe it’s my inner hopeless romantic; maybe it’s the wintry cuddle season, but if I’m stuck inside dreaming all day, I want to be with someone whose dreams are wilder than mine.

Here’s why you should fall in love with someone who exhilarates you:

1. They introduce you to things you’ve never imagined

It’s a big, big world out there, filled with crazy stuff like The World at Dubai and beer-flavored jelly beans and so much more that we can’t discover it all on our own. Someone who inspires you brings a sense of awe into your life, even when it’s as small as showing you the secret spot for the best wings in the city.

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2. They motivate you to do better

They will push you to be a better person without directly putting pressure on you. Your partner serves as the best incentive to transcend your limitations. When you’re ready to give up, it’s important to have a supporting person to get you back on track.

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3. They are profoundly interesting

This is the person you can lie across the couch with, talking all day and never running out of things to say. They possess this otherworldly knowledge that’s enlightening and captivating at the same time. Who can resist a guy who can pontificate on European history just as easily as he can show you the sites?

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4. They make you feel fulfilled

You won’t feel like you’re missing out on something or that anything greater can come along. Everything you need is right in front of you, which is really the beauty of falling in love with someone who inspires you. They make you realize that you have all the capabilities of finding self-satisfaction.

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5. They make you dream bigger

When you connect with this person, their investment in you means that you will be motivated to constantly strive to go beyond what you think you are capable of. Being with this person makes you feel like you can do anything, escape to anywhere, conquer whatever you set out to do. It’s an unexplainable high every time.

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6. They help you achieve your goals because they understand their importance to you

This person isn’t going to hold you back from anything. If you want to sign up for a new class or check out the latest live music, they won’t stop you for selfish reasons. They understand that your personal happiness is just as paramount as their own.

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6. They bring excitement in your life

There’s no such thing as a boring activity in your relationship — even if you’re spending the night in, staying up watching a psychological thriller, or playing tease card games. This person is inherently intriguing, which makes it easy to get lost in your days together.

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7. They challenge you

This person won’t “yes” you when you ask them for an honest opinion. Take it as a sign that you hold significance in their lives when they don’t let you get away with mediocrity. This is someone who cares about you enough to tell you the hard truths that you can’t tell yourself.

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8. They make you realize how amazing you truly are

All this time you think this person is flawless because they are a role model in your life, but in reality, it’s what you also bring to the table that makes this other person shine. They help you remember that you make a great team; it’s not a one-sided relationship.

And if you are lucky enough to find this person who so positively builds your confidence and sense of self, then you are quite an inspiration to me.

15/2

I know it has been ages since I've penned my thoughts properly. Sorry!

Anyways, I guess I can guess how many actually read this. Maybe 2? :/

Chinese New Year has come and gone, so did Valentine's!

Was yours awesome? Mine was. :)

Sometimes it doesn't really matter what kind of gifts you get on special occasions. It's the sentimental value behind it.

Okay, to be honest, probably I was expecting more? The more I think of it, the more sick I get of myself.

Gah.

Fine.

Bye.

5/2

I can't believe I have been away from blogging for SO long!

Okay, I WILL be back, after I get my draft done!

;)

21/1

Yourstruly has always had a problem: Too many thoughts but everytime she wants to pen down one, she forgets the previous one.

Now that yourstruly has a little time to spare before the real work yourstruly has and a lot of other daily chores, yourstruly shall write a bit about what yourstruly has been having in her mind recently.

Friendship.

I always give this a lot of thoughts. I don't know exactly why but probably because friends are so so so important to me.

So anyway, I have a confession to make: When I was in my schooling time, I always ALWAYS have thought that there is nothing even more important than my friends. Now I kind of see what kind of effect I produced on my family. It's very stupid, I admit, and if you're one of those people who puts friends before family, I would really love to advise you to think twice.

Some friends come, some friends go, but I'm glad that I remember and think about them frequently. Some are awkward friends (like the type that you meet over a conversation with another quite-awkward friend and the quite-awkward friend insists to add even more awkwardness to the situation by introducing you to the awkward friend. Well, awkwardness.
Some friends just "memperalatkan" or USE you, dump you somewhere or just ignore you completely when you've done your job that they need you to, whether consciously or unconsciously, and comes back to you again when they need your service again! Wow, hello.
Skip all those irrelevant characters, shall we?

So here we are, at the IMPORTANT FRIENDS!
Let me rectify the point that important does not necessarily mean they're the ones that you always stick and cling to, and not necessarily also those who gave you shitty times and did terrible things till you feel like slapping them hard in their face OR kick them in the balls and make them disappear forever.
So why not we start with the more-disliked-but-still-important-friends?
There always is this certain type of friend who really treats you like ain't-nobody-got-time-for-real-friendship, you know what I mean? *I have so many faces floating around in my head now, I can't wait to pen most of them down. Why MOST? Please refer back to top. Anyway, this certain type of friend can suddenly be extremely close to you, extremely caring, considerate and good with words. And gradually he/she steps too close into your personal space circumference and starts to behave rather weirdly, in ways you've never thought he/she would. Some of them are potential FFBs (Friends-For-Benefits) and seriously, I still cannot accept the fact that I was myself once asked to be an FFB to another person, whom I will not refer the name here. (However, to that person, I was rather disappointed in you cause you could be a much, much better person if you had stronger and better personalities.) And some just take you for granted. I used to despise the phrase "take you for granted" SO much, and later now I finally realized the fact that I really used to be a person who "takes people for granted". But then the bright side is that you learn how to deal with this type of people. I have expectantly had quite some rough time dealing with these people, more to my own mentality most of the time I guess. Sometimes you think to yourself whether you're not a good-enough-friend to them cause they don't really seem to give any fucks to you. Then after you calm down, you realize that actually what for would you want to waste time on people who don't really give fucks about you? I used to think that if I care about certain people, they will automatically feel it and give the same in return. Hypothesis rejected.

Next.

Then there comes the annoying friends. Ohmaigod. I can go on and on with exactly how a-n-n-o-y-i-n-g some friends can get. It's either their attitude or their personality or what they say or what they do. Some even do stuff that they KNOW will 1000% piss you off yet still act like a pure, innocent kid after you discover the shit that's planted. I mean like come on, we're all ADULTS already, so can you have a more mature and more PROFESSIONAL mentality. Gosh. I wouldn't want to babble too much about annoying friends but here's the thing: I appreciate their presence in life, as they are here to teach us how to reflect upon ourselves regularly and think in other's shoes to make sure that we don't upset everyone most of the people surrounding us.

Then comes the Hi-Bye friends. These friends frequently collide in our passages in our daily lives, but weirdly despite the high tendency of us to bump into them, we are almost always not very close to them in heart. It's like somehow you know that you both are just gonna be Hi-Bye friends, for no apparent reason. These people, however, are very comfortable to strike a random conversation with. For example, the friendly cleaner auntie I always see every odd day. Or the laundry lady, we can comfortably talk about quite a lot of things. And a random sales person in a mall. Probably I am in a way, a more extrovert person, who opens up to random more easily.  I enjoy those moments nevertheless, cause I think one of the ultimate reasons of living is to make peace with strangers and befriending everyone cause everything starts from friendship, no?

Then comes the I-don't-always-contact-you-but-you're-frequently-on-my-mind kind of friends. Sometimes it just takes a simple "Yo dude!" or "Hey" to kick start a very simple yet warming conversation. I have SO MANY of those type of friends.

Last are the most important friends! IMPORTANTEH
As we grow older, we all gain and lose friends, according to the Hardy-Weinberg Law of Equilibrium (HAHA), but nonetheless, I can't help but notice that our circle of important friends grows smaller and smaller until a rather constant diameter. I am very grateful with the people I have left in my constant diameter, cause they're truthfully awesome people!
I've never really had a surprise for my birthday, and I'm really hoping for one. All these years I always plan my birthday celebration so yea. Yea. I remember once we went to an important friend's house to sneak up into her bedroom and wait for her to wake up to surprise her on her birthday morning. I would like CRY if I were the girl like seriously.

Getting a bit tired, hence signing off. Yourstruly wishes readers good night, sweet dreams :)

20/1/2014

The Almighty FIRST post of 2014! Gosh, damn I'm so disconnected from the blogging atmosphere.

It so happens that this is my 420th POST! *claps for self*

=)

*pats own head*

OK, knock it off.

So well lately there actually has been quite a few things that yourstruly hasn't written in her blog yet, since my previous post was AGES ago.

1. Yourstruly is back in the island! Like oh, finally~

-------- finally back to work on the blog post after 9 hours ---------------

Continuing on 1., yeap, yourstruly is on sem break until uni starts again on 10th Feb! Which means yourstruly gets to spend CNY Day #1 till Day #10 AT HOME! Oh Yeah! It's like the longggggest CNY holiday ever since schooling life, trust me. Forget the fact that Malaysia has the MOST public holidays (probably across the world), please, this is different. Cause this is my last holiday in SCHOOL LIFE, unless yourstruly padan muka go apply for Masters or PhD postgraduate studies, which I at some point, doubt.

2. LAST semester of B.Sc (Hons) Biotechnology

Oh my, how else do you describe how time passes by so fast? 2 and 1/2 years just gone by, that damn fast. The first time I set foot in uni was some time even before registration day, can you believe it? I was probably the only one in uni who was dreadfully dragged by an adult to campus to "see how it looks like la, and how is your room ah, how much need to pay ah.." Typical Chinese. I'm all like "relaxandchilllahdude, I'm old enough to suck up whatever shit I get in life and get moving on after whatever shit I get". However, I'm still grateful though the trip was weirdly extremely long and noisy and that we even got lost on the way back. I still think that our campus is actually quite a pretty, green, comfortable campus, ON OVERALL, cause you don't want me to talk too much about the hostel. OKAY, now that I've said it: I live in a 4-to-a-room hostel, with 3 rooms in an apartment unit, with NO air-cond, NO TV set, NO lift and a messy living room, or would I just call it an-area-after-the-main-door-before-the-rooms. And the toilet is always cramped with stuff from other rooms. And I keep asking myself "Do they have no more space in their rooms to keep their own shampoo and shaving cream and underwear-soaked-in-water-but-too-lame-to-wash and all sorts of pails?". I will come back to blog about Uni Life.

3. At home

Hmm, I would say that nothing much has changed, but this time certain things seemed much more clearer than they had been previously. To illustrate this better (OMG too much scientific writing) let me just give you a very simple example.
A does something and annoyed B. B tells C about what A did. A spies and eavesdrops on B and C and does something even more annoying than the first time.
So yeah, B is no way in good terms with A now, cause finally B has seen through A and now all the evil plans A has. Clever, but B won't be stupid either.
I don't really agree with the fact that a lot of Chinese people still have the mentality of "whatever happens he/she is still your elder and you shall respect him/her". How the hell are you supposed to respect a person who puts forward no respect for him/herself and fakes everything he/her does, says?
On the other hand, I'm actually improving relationships with important people.

4. Apple of the Eye

I guess everyone agrees that everyone will eventually find their apple of their eye in life? Yourstruly has indeed found hers, and is holding on. Too much to say about the AOTE, but hmmm, PDA is an offense no? :P

Alright, I will BE BACK SOON for continuation parts.

ILY. :)

21/12

Dang. It's already Winter Solstice!

It's the day when Chinese people make TANGYUENS!  Me gusta~

So it's gonna be Christmas, even sooner, and yourstruly wishes that everyone is gonna have a real good one. Yourstruly has trouble deciding whether to head back to campus earlier or not.

Hmmmmmmm. :/

14/12

Hey people. Happy Hugging Valentine's! Have you hugged your valentine?

Today, yourstruly had been having a lot of serious thoughts, of which yourstruly had no definite conclusion to.

yourstruly just hopes that somebody enjoyed the day, played the best and is safely returning.

I missed you, a lot and a lot.