Now that yourstruly has a little time to spare before the real work yourstruly has and a lot of other daily chores, yourstruly shall write a bit about what yourstruly has been having in her mind recently.
Friendship.
I always give this a lot of thoughts. I don't know exactly why but probably because friends are so so so important to me.
So anyway, I have a confession to make: When I was in my schooling time, I always ALWAYS have thought that there is nothing even more important than my friends. Now I kind of see what kind of effect I produced on my family. It's very stupid, I admit, and if you're one of those people who puts friends before family, I would really love to advise you to think twice.
Some friends come, some friends go, but I'm glad that I remember and think about them frequently. Some are awkward friends (like the type that you meet over a conversation with another quite-awkward friend and the quite-awkward friend insists to add even more awkwardness to the situation by introducing you to the awkward friend. Well, awkwardness.
Some friends just "memperalatkan" or USE you, dump you somewhere or just ignore you completely when you've done your job that they need you to, whether consciously or unconsciously, and comes back to you again when they need your service again! Wow, hello.
Skip all those irrelevant characters, shall we?
So here we are, at the IMPORTANT FRIENDS!
Let me rectify the point that important does not necessarily mean they're the ones that you always stick and cling to, and not necessarily also those who gave you shitty times and did terrible things till you feel like slapping them hard in their face OR kick them in the balls and make them disappear forever.
So why not we start with the more-disliked-but-still-important-friends?
There always is this certain type of friend who really treats you like ain't-nobody-got-time-for-real-friendship, you know what I mean? *I have so many faces floating around in my head now, I can't wait to pen most of them down. Why MOST? Please refer back to top. Anyway, this certain type of friend can suddenly be extremely close to you, extremely caring, considerate and good with words. And gradually he/she steps too close into your personal space circumference and starts to behave rather weirdly, in ways you've never thought he/she would. Some of them are potential FFBs (Friends-For-Benefits) and seriously, I still cannot accept the fact that I was myself once asked to be an FFB to another person, whom I will not refer the name here. (However, to that person, I was rather disappointed in you cause you could be a much, much better person if you had stronger and better personalities.) And some just take you for granted. I used to despise the phrase "take you for granted" SO much, and later now I finally realized the fact that I really used to be a person who "takes people for granted". But then the bright side is that you learn how to deal with this type of people. I have expectantly had quite some rough time dealing with these people, more to my own mentality most of the time I guess. Sometimes you think to yourself whether you're not a good-enough-friend to them cause they don't really seem to give any fucks to you. Then after you calm down, you realize that actually what for would you want to waste time on people who don't really give fucks about you? I used to think that if I care about certain people, they will automatically feel it and give the same in return. Hypothesis rejected.
Next.
Then there comes the annoying friends. Ohmaigod. I can go on and on with exactly how a-n-n-o-y-i-n-g some friends can get. It's either their attitude or their personality or what they say or what they do. Some even do stuff that they KNOW will 1000% piss you off yet still act like a pure, innocent kid after you discover the shit that's planted. I mean like come on, we're all ADULTS already, so can you have a more mature and more PROFESSIONAL mentality. Gosh. I wouldn't want to babble too much about annoying friends but here's the thing: I appreciate their presence in life, as they are here to teach us how to reflect upon ourselves regularly and think in other's shoes to make sure that we don't upset
Then comes the Hi-Bye friends. These friends frequently collide in our passages in our daily lives, but weirdly despite the high tendency of us to bump into them, we are almost always not very close to them in heart. It's like somehow you know that you both are just gonna be Hi-Bye friends, for no apparent reason. These people, however, are very comfortable to strike a random conversation with. For example, the friendly cleaner auntie I always see every odd day. Or the laundry lady, we can comfortably talk about quite a lot of things. And a random sales person in a mall. Probably I am in a way, a more extrovert person, who opens up to random more easily. I enjoy those moments nevertheless, cause I think one of the ultimate reasons of living is to make peace with strangers and befriending everyone cause everything starts from friendship, no?
Then comes the I-don't-always-contact-you-but-you're-frequently-on-my-mind kind of friends. Sometimes it just takes a simple "Yo dude!" or "Hey" to kick start a very simple yet warming conversation. I have SO MANY of those type of friends.
Last are the most important friends! IMPORTANTEH
As we grow older, we all gain and lose friends,
I've never really had a surprise for my birthday, and I'm really hoping for one. All these years I always plan my birthday celebration so yea. Yea. I remember once we went to an important friend's house to sneak up into her bedroom and wait for her to wake up to surprise her on her birthday morning. I would like CRY if I were the girl like seriously.
Getting a bit tired, hence signing off. Yourstruly wishes readers good night, sweet dreams :)
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